My scenarios are different than a lot of other work places. Working in an emergency room there really isn’t a private place, more of pull someone aside and have a quick conversation with them in the hall way or a open place like that. It was more of constructive criticism, or warning people about cell phone use in patient areas or just telling them to pick up the pace a little. Anytime it was a female coworker, I made sure all conversations happened where someone could see both of us. They may not have been able to hear us but they could at least see what was going on. Never took a female coworker to private place to talk. That’s just asking for trouble. If I felt like it was a conversation that warranted a more private area, i always took the coworker straight to my directors office and talked with them present. I was always careful about documenting any grievances in writing, via email or something like that. So that way it could be easily tracked.You can not do that in this day and time.
It will not work out good.
If they have it out for you and there is bad blood you always want a recording or witness.
They will file a claim that you said X or did X when you pulled them aside.
There is no way to win that.
The one time I let someone have it in front of everyone was due to a blatant disregard of hospital policy and patient safety. The nurse nearly killed a patient. I didn’t yell, but I let it be known to that nurse and everyone around them that what they did was negligent and down right dangerous and they had no business being a nurse. I did curse, several times and “knife handed“ (Army days came back to me). I ended up in HR the next day. I admitted that I said things that were probably disrespectful, explained the situation and showed the documentation of clear violation of policy. I walked out with a written warning on my file. The coworker got the axe and sent to board of nursing for possible license revocation. Worth it to me.